Guidance from our Khulafa
Even in the matter of Nikah the religious aspect is given due regard and consideration is given that the girl is religious minded and the boy is not of bad character. In Arabia due consideration is given even to the pedigree of horses. In Europe special care is given to crops. The same is true for the human race. The Nikah which is based on truth and on clear words and has been conducted to win the pleasure of Allah is bound to produce good results.
(Hadhrat Musleh Maud (ra), Sermon delivered on 27th March 1915)There is no doubt that the event of marriage is an occasion when a person gropes in dark. He may grasp a pearl or catch a snake. Islam, therefore, has enjoined on us that we should base our marriage on Taqwa.
(Hadhrat Muslehe Ma’ud (ra))Whatever aspects of life there may be, and they are apparently numerous, their basis on their influence on their source lies in true words. The verses which are recited in the sermon for Nikah make reference to this. So as a result of clear and true words, no upheavals can take place in human life, nor can there be any pitfalls and complications or bad feelings
Our friends should remember that wherever a weakness in human relationships is noticed, its basic and real cause will undoubtedly be nothing but a lack of clear and true words which may be found between individuals, families, nations and countries. Today the world uses diplomacy instead of clear and true words. The language of Diplomacy is used with much dexterity and clearness whilst ignoring straightforwardness. This shows that the language of diplomacy is opposite to straight words ; as a result of which man has suffered and is suffering and is likely to continue suffering in the future, a thought of which makes one’s hair stand on end.
(Hazrat Khalifatul Masih III)“Ahmadi boys and girls should marry each other, so that their future progeny also remains attached to their faith.”
(Friday Sermon, 24th December 2004)“These days, you are living in Western societies, that have many customs and rituals of their own, which can create distance between you and your religion and that can diminish the beauty of Islamic teachings for you.”
(Conditions of Bai’at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi, p. 108)
“Marriage is a sacred vow and union, it must be respected.”
(Friday Sermon, 19th December 2003)“Children should thus fully understand that whilst they should indeed pray, they should not form an ‘ideal’, because sometimes many wrongs are committed in search of an ideal.”
(Address at UK Lajna & Nasirat Ijtema, 4th October 2009)“Young women, as well as parents, should make decisions about marriage proposals with prayers.”
(Address at UK Lajna & Nasirat Ijtema, 4th October 2009)
“Marriage is a sacred vow and union, it must be respected.”
(Friday Sermon, 19th December 2003)“Children should thus fully understand that whilst they should indeed pray, they should not form an ‘ideal’, because sometimes many wrongs are committed in search of an ideal.”
(Address at UK Lajna & Nasirat Ijtema, 4th October 2009)“Young women, as well as parents, should make decisions about marriage proposals with prayers.”
(Address at UK Lajna & Nasirat Ijtema, 4th October 2009)
Therefore when a Mu’min is in search of Taqwa, it is not just for himself, rather it is also for his offspring and for his society.”
(Address to Lajna, on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011)It should always be remembered, this beauty comes from wearing the raiment of Taqwa,
(Address to Lajna on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011).Because Qawl e Sadeed (the right word) entails that everything should be clearly explained before a match is arranged.
(Address to Lajna on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011)
Likewise, if the required information is provided beforehand, many instances of early Khula or divorce can be avoided.
(Address to Lajna, on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011)Compatibility is in the standard of piety and Taqwa being the same.
(Address to Lajna on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011).Indeed it is a pious man alone, who will seek a pious wife.
(Address to Lajna on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011)
I have to regretfully say, that our girls women and men are being influenced by the current ways of the world.
(Address to Lajna, on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011)Our rate of divorce and Khula is continuing to rise. The reason for this is impatience, lack of virtues and distance from Taqwa.
(Address to Lajna on 2nd day of Jalsa Salana UK, 23rd July 2011).Look, there is no shame in front of Allah the Exalted. Indeed you are young, but you should keep on praying to God that He gives you a pious and blessed match.
(Address of Hadhrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba), at UK Lajna & Nasirat Ijtema, 4th October 2009)
There is no doubt that the event of marriage is an occasion when a person gropes in the dark. He may grasp a pearl or catch a snake. Islam has therefore enjoined on us that we should base our marriage on the Taqwa (Fear of God) and ignore worldly considerations altogether. It cannot be said with certainty that a beautiful wife would provide the comfort, her husband needs but an ugly wife can do the needful. We can only get comfort from such wives who are sympathetic towards us. A wife can if she wishes, make her husband feel free from all household worries and if she wishes, she can imprison her husband and ruin his respect and dignity. She can provide peace of mind and comfort and bring good fortune and tranquillity to the house.
(Khotabat-un-Nikah Vol.1, PP.195-196)I remind my Jamaat once again that you should set right the matters relating to Nikah and in the future work towards it carefully and seek help from God through Istekhara Prayers. This will promote love amongst you and your progeny will prosper and be righteous. Do not make any decision before you pray but whilst praying and offering Istekhara prayer you should forget your own opinion and decisions. If you pray or do Istekhara after you have made your decision, your prayer will not be blessed. Istekhara and prayer can only be blessed if your opinion and decision has no effect upon it. Leave the matter to God and free your heart and mind and pray to Him that “O God! Whosoever You chose will be right and best for us”
(Khotabat-un-Nikah Vol.1, P.105)About marriage, it is mentioned one of the traditions of the Holy Prophet (saw) that when a man marries, he has many things in view. Sometimes a woman is taken in marriage because of her wealth and sometimes for her beauty or that she belongs to a high ranking family and sometimes she is chosen because of some contest. But the Holy Prophet (saw) enjoins on us that we give credence to the religious aspect so that piety should prevail, otherwise we will suffer. Should you wish to marry more than one wife, it should be only for this reason that piety should prevail. If the aspect of piety is ignored in any marriage, then that marriage is neither of benefit for you nor it is going to be blessed.
(Khotabaat—Noor p.69)